A Balancing Act

Here is a question for all of you "Facilitators" and instructors of PSYCH-L out there to chew on:

I've been balancing for various aspects of my "psychology" for lack of a better word. Its common and natural for most of us to want to "self-improve". Your all familiar with the standard self-improvement balancing acts: anxiety, feeling more confident and other self-esteem issues, removing fear, anger and depression from our lives. These items keep reappearing in the Success Stories.

My question that has now become a set of questions:

Once we balance for various items on this list of psychological characteristics we'd like to "improve" are we done? Is it just a matter of watching changed behaviors manifest in our lives?

Is it that easy?

Are we "done done done" with that issue forever, or as I'm beginning to sense, can those issues pop up again in another behavioral disguise?

Could it be that we can only balance for those aspects of our psychology that we are presently aware of?

Another way of asking the question is, to what degree do we need to re-balance, if at all or are we simply experiencing new facets of our psychology that need additional balancing?

I am very interested to hear from YOU...

Larry Valmore's Success Stories: "No More Nerves"

No More Nerves on Grating
or Mum's the Word
or Climb High, Sigh Low

Larry Valmore


This past May, I had the privilege of spending the day in Hermannsdorf, Germany (about 30 minutes south of Munich), with the lovely Manuela Kroos. She is German, but is quite fluent in English, which she speaks with a mixture of German and British accents (from my Yankee point of view). She sends the following Success. She does make a few slight errors writing English, but hey ˜ she does a whole lot better than I would do writing German! I've left her words just as I got them, for authenticity.

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A woman with acrophobia came to see me for the second time. I expected it to be a straightforward session, based on past experience with the topic and on working with her previously.

Oh well, the process thought me differently.

The key believes and balances were:

1. "I climb up high, look down and feel ok." Did a VAK to the Future resulting in "I discovered my strength" and then used New Direction balance.
2. "I trust myself and listen to my inner voice." Did a VAK to the Future resulting in "I'm happy now," used Resolution Balance.
3. "It's easy for me to receive love from others." Did a VAK, one photo came up (she hugs her mum) resulting in "I let go of blockades." Again, Resolution Balance.

Besides the three key balances, we did a couple believes from the [7 Categories of Change] sheets. The central issue was the relationship with her mum, which could have been the cause of the acrophobia. After the session we went to a barn with very high silos and steel grating balconies/walks on top of the silos. She had tried to climb up several weeks ago but couldn't get up. This time she climbed all the way up to the top, walked around, and looked down. She couldn't believe it. What a joy!

Lots of love from Herrmannsdorf,

Manuela

Manuela Kroos
malakaba ˆ beyond belief